I’m back because I need this.
I logged back into here with the intention of writing a post very similar to my previous one, which is good because it means my vision for this blog hasn’t changed, but bad because obviously I’ve made zero progress. That’s changing starting now. So hello!
Hello again! So I took a little break from this because life got in the way, and it gave me some time to think about what I really want out of this blog. I’ve been a blogger for years now without even knowing it. From Diaryland to Xanga to MySpace to tumblr to WordPress — the list goes on and on — I have always been open to sharing my life online. But for some reason, none of them ever stuck around. I want this to stick.
So how am I going to do that? I realized that what I like most about blogging is going back and seeing a real depiction of my life in that moment — the good, the bad, and everything in between. So there’s one thing I know for sure: I want this to be real. One of my favorite compliments will always be “that is so you.” That’s how I want this blog to be. I want it to feel like me in every sense of the word. Some days it will be beautiful and perfect, but mostly it will be my life just as it is: unstaged, authentic, honest, and full of mistakes.
So here is the perfect picture to kick this whole thing off:
This is the current state of my new apartment, and a pretty accurate depiction of my life at this moment: messy and chaotic. I will admit that it’s not easy right now, but I’m excited for what’s to come.
Being the over-thinker that I am, I kinda already had an idea of how I wanted to announce my engagement before I was even engaged. Is that weird? Yeah, probably. But I’m a planner (and a weirdo) so oh well.
I’ve seen a lot of cute engagements where the family and friends are in on it or are there ready to surprise the bride-to-be, and I knew that wasn’t right for me. It may sound selfish, but I really didn’t want to be the last person to find out about my engagement. I’m glad my fiance knew this because I honestly think getting to tell the news to everyone I love was almost as exciting as actually getting engaged!
As soon as the deed was done and we left our little corner street sign (read our proposal story here), I wanted to tell the world. I didn’t want our close friends and family to find out from social media or hear it from someone else, so I started going through my list of loved ones. I instinctively called my parents (who of course had an idea it was coming), and then my siblings — it was tough to decide who to tell first of the three, so I think I went by age. And then I made one last call to my grandma.All were surprised and overjoyed.
I am very close to my cousins so I couldn’t wait to tell them, but there’s a lot of them and they’re spread out all over the country — literally, from New York to California — so I figured a group text was the way to go. Somehow during my proposal blackout period, I remembered to take this picture:
Some time long ago, I was daydreaming of this big day and pictured us high-fiving when it happened. Don’t ask why. I think I’ve just seen too many cutesy engagement photos and they didn’t feel like “us”. This felt like us. Best friends high fiving because they’re going to spend the rest of their lives together. Perfect.
Anyways, I sent this picture to my cousins with a simple message: “Look, guys, I found a street sign with my name spelled correctly”. The excited congratulatory texts came pouring in (plus some hilarious ones that only noticed the sign at first — haha).
We went out for a friend’s birthday that night, but decided to keep it hush hush: partly because we didn’t want to take away from the birthday celebrant’s day and partly because we knew we would see other close friends and family in the coming days. It was almost impossible to keep it to ourselves that night (at least for me), but we managed to get through it and only told one person that we mutually agreed upon in advance.
The next day I told three of my best friends (and soon-to-be bridesmaids) and his cousins the following day, both at pre-arranged gatherings. We had made a plan to have him fake propose at both gatherings, but I couldn’t get through it without laughing both times. It was nice to tell people in person, and every time was just as exciting as the first.
We told a few others with the same picture before finally deciding to make it “Facebook official”. I used the pic one last time with this caption:
Friday was a great day: found a street with my name spelled correctly and this guy asked me to marry him. High fives all around!
And so the word was out.
I know I make it sound like this was a big deal to me, but in the grander scheme of things, it really wasn’t. If word had gotten out or my entire family had known before me or the whole world had found out on Facebook, would it have taken away from this experience? Absolutely not. Because honestly, nothing could have taken away from it. I only share this because the way everything played out felt so perfectly right for us, and I’m hoping it’s a sign of all the good to come.
Hello, new site! I am super excited about the launch of this new blog. This is something I’ve been wanting to do for awhile so one day a few weeks ago, I was like, “what the heck! let’s just do this thing!” And here we are.
First, introductions. I’m Allyson — a twenty-something (mid-20’s if you want to be more specific…when did that happen?!) living in (the suburbs) of Chicago.
I’ll be upfront — I’m not a writer, a designer, or really anything remotely creative. I am an over-thinker, an avid list writer, a DIY amateur, food lover, family obsessed, soon-to-be bride that likes to make pretty things, explore fun places, .try things I’ve never done before, and write it all down. Let’s see where this takes me.
Not enough? Learn more on my about page.